Hi Simon,
Actually this is the original one but i couldnt delete the previous one (56964).
As to the meaning of "refuse packet", yes ıt ıs not clear you are rıght: I mean "Reset", in another words [R.] flagged packet in tcpdump. It means, server will not be establishing your connection request, so server refuses your connection request.

I came across an issue while trying to connect to remote TCP server by using non-blocking socket.After sending the connection request by lwip_connect i am checking the "writability of the socket by lwip_select and also i am checking the errno.

But, even if the remote server sends "refuse connection request", lwip assumes it is connected to remote tcp server.

Note: Just for example, on ubuntu you can send "refuse connection request" packet to clients when you follow the steps below:
1)nc -l 45678
2)CTRL+Z = stop netcad
3) After stopping netcad, when you send a connection request, ubuntu will send 'refuse' packet to your connection request. When you try to connect with your mobile phone, it will reported that it can not connect to remote server.
But when you try to connect with a non-blocking socket by using lwIP 2.1.2, then lwip_connect returns EINPROGRESS and lwip_select, returns 'socket is writable' / "OK" when the socket receives the 'refuse packet'.